Tip No 6 – Surprise people!
When writing a blog about style for older women it can be all too easy to assume that whilst older women don’t want to be old fashioned or, God forbid, frumpy, they don’t want to be ‘mutton dressed as lamb’. This is of course open to interpretation. The alternative? Mutton dressed as mutton?
Stylish women have edge. They have a presence. They rarely play it safe. By offering a surprise in how you present yourself you keep your style fresh and yourself interested in how you look.
Wear a bright scarf – particularly if you usually don’t
Wear an ethnic bracelet with a plain top
Go for some seriously sexy shoes
Style is about the element of surprise. It’s about not being predictable. You may favour a fairly casual approach to what you wear. The trick is to add an accessory that surprises. You can buy some amazingly cheap costume jewellery which can transform an outfit. What you want to avoid is the appearance of a uniform.
Go on. Create some drama! Small changes produce big results.
Tip No 5 – Update your Make-up
Nothing ages a woman more than wearing the same make-up she did 10 plus years ago. This is usually down to two factors. Firstly, habit and secondly not knowing where to start with regard to changing. Most older women either wear not enough make-up (yes this is possible!) or far too much. At the risk of causing a riot I am of the firm belief that all older women need make-up. Yes, even if you have a glowing natural tan you still need to define (not obliterate) your eyes and lips. The fact is skin tone fades, muscles slacken and some skins get age spots. If you have grey hair you need some colour on your face or else you will look washed out. Tinted moisturiser is ideal as it is light and easy to apply.
This women is wearing make-up and has subtly defined her eyes and her lips. This is a perfect daytime look. As all my readers are unique I can’t recommend one single product or range. Skin tone, skin type, shape of eyes and face all need to be taken into account. I can, as I usually do, mention products that I have used. As you get older you definitely need make-up, as the images below so clearly demonstrate.
Bobbie Brown Makeover
Lisa Eldridge Makeover
I hope I’ve proved my point. Both the above makeovers are on Youtube. Lisa Eldridge has her own blog which has some excellent videos. Lisa mentions the actual products she uses and has a down to earth style which certainly works for me. Do your research and then go into your local department or beauty store and book a makeover. All the main brands are very happy to do this. You then get a good idea of the type of product and the colours that suit you. Ask for tips on application. I have found Chanel, Bobbi Brown, Mac and Clinique to be excellent at ‘doing’ your make-up for you and offering useful tips too.
My all time favourite
Great for dry skin
All older skin needs some colour and some ‘glow’. If you can achieve this without using make-up answers on a postcard please! Personally I don’t favour powder blushes as the product can settle on skin that has wrinkles. There are many gel or liquid blushes.
My new obsession!
I am a big fan of clinique make up. It has stood the test of time and continues to perform well. Their range of chubby sticks are easy to apply and save time. The chubby stick highlighter above is brilliant at making you look healthy and fresh. Simply stroke some on your forehead, bridge of the nose and the top of your cheek bones and then lightly blend. It stays put all day.
Fantastic at 60!
Tip No 4 – Take good care of your skin
Even with well applied foundation poor neglected skin will show through. It’s difficult to look stylish if your skin lacks radiance, seems dull and dry and somewhat neglected. Dehydrated skin does not look good. Start from the inside by drinking plenty of water. Yes, I know you know. But do you do it? Water means precisely that. Herbal teas are good of course. However, good plain H2O is essential. Set yourself a challenge to drink at least 3 large glasses of water per day. If this seems too much then simply drink 6 smaller glasses spread over the day. Then increase by at least one glass. Why not turn it into a bit of a ritual and add a slice of lemon. I am a great fan of hot water and although it may take some getting used to it is reputed to act as good detox agent. Eat your 5 a-day and I promise you you will see the difference.
Read my post on skin cleansing and make sure you clean your skin with a product which suits your skin type. Although there is one school of thought that says expensive cleansers are a waste of money I don’t agree. Buy the best you can afford. The key is use the right amount and not be heavy-handed. Always remove your make-up before going to bed. I do know you know this but it is such an important point it needs to be made.
Quick, easy and effective
Use with a muslin cloth – fabulous!
Yes it is still on the market because it works!
Your choice of cleanser is very much up too you. I believe that you must start with clean skin and you need to be fastidious. Use a magnifying mirror (ghastly I know) so you can really see your skin up close.
Having really cleansed your face you now need to moisturise. There are so many moisturisers out they you are spoiled for choice. I will only ever mention products I have used personally or are recommended by people who’s opinion I value.
I’ve been using the Espa Regenerating Moisture Complex for 4 weeks now and I am very impressed with how soft my skin feels. Because they incorporate essential oils their products not only feel lovely but they smell gorgeous too. You can only (as far as I am aware) buy them in beauty salons.
Olay get a good press and whilst they don’t suit my skin – sorry Olay – I know women who swear by their creams. They are reasonably priced and easy to buy, even in your local supermarket.
Moisturise like it is going out of fashion! You don’t need to use vast quantities but you do need to find a good moisturiser that works for you. If you are post menopausal this is particularly important. If you are thinking of investing in a top end cream then go into your department store and ask them for a sample. All the well known brands have small pots under the counter which they are more than happy to fill up with their product. They can also give you some advice too!
Don’t become obsessed with any wrinkles, facial sag (I suffer with jowls!) or age spots. Look after your skin by keeping it clean, well moisturised and generally cared for. In the sun use an appropriate skin factor. When you get the chance have a facial. Absolute bliss and one of my favourite things. And don’t forget – get plenty of sleep. Lack of sleep shows on your face – always.
Here we are at number 10 of the style essentials that will keep you looking good. For some women wearing a skirt is almost a major event. We have all become so used to slipping into our jeans or a pair of trousers. Yet a skirt is possibly the most feminine article of clothing around. I believe that the reason so many women have shunned the skirt is because, as yet, they haven’t found the right one for them.
Great shape for a flat bottom
There are several areas to consider when choosing a skirt. Firstly there’s the fabric. A creased skirt looks dreadful unless or course it is linen. Contradictory but true. Then there is the style of the skirt. Pencil, A-line, pleated or full? Then one of the most important aspects – the length. Coco Channel once remarked that the ugliest part of a woman were her knees. I’m not sure I entirely agree, however some women do have unattractive knees, even those with fairly good legs. So, what is the most flattering length? In my opinion I believe it is any length that hits at mid-knee. Please be aware that a skirt length that rests on your mid-calf will shorten and thicken your leg. The only exception to this is a fairly tight pencil skirt with either a kick-back pleat or wrap over (to allow easy walking) which can look stunning.
Pencil wrap skirt
Ultra feminine Valentino
The A-line shape above is flattering for most body shapes. It can hide a large bottom and give shape to a boyish figure. So if investing in a skirt is a new decision for you it may be best to go for this shape.
Just the right length
The outfit above demonstrates the importance of proportion. However, the stripes, while looking very chic, can have the effect of widening the hips particularly for those women with short bodies.
Navy pleated skirt – classic
Pleated skirt are very feminine and provided you wear the right top they look good. No flounces or frills please as the pleated skirt requires a simple top. A note of caution for older women. Don’t be too conservative with your choice of top or accessories. Why? You will look old fashioned! The model above gets away with it as she is fairly young.
Pleats by Zara
Should you wear a mini skirt? It really is up to your level of confidence and how good your legs are. If both are not what you would wish I would say ‘no’. And remember that when you sit down wearing a short skirt you may reveal more than is necessary, which is never stylish. Personally I don’t like to see women over fifty wearing very short skirts because I don’t think it looks stylish and can give the impression of being desperate. But as I say it really is up to you. Towards the other end of the scale is the long usually shapeless skirt. The length tends to hover above the ankle by about 2-3 inches. Please resist this at all costs. You will only succeed in looking as if you have joined a strange religious sect. If your legs are heavy and you don’t feel good wearing any of the styles mentioned than go for a long length which skims the floor. This will look equally good with ballet flats or ankle boots, especially if you are tall. There are some really lovely maxi skirts around at the moment.
If you haven’t worn a skirt for a while why not make 2016 the year all that changes. Decide on what type of skirt you want and then do your research. It may be helpful to read my article called The Art of Shopping posted last month. A final piece of guidance. Shop with some pins. If the length is too long pin it to the length that suits you best. Then get a good dressmaker to alter it. As I’ve said before using the services of a dressmaker or tailor will make a remarkable difference to how your clothes fit (unless you are a classic size and everything fits you perfectly!).
You now have your 10 essential key pieces. Mix and match to your hearts content knowing you look stylish and chic.
This is not a post on style, despite the title, just to let you know I’m back on line. A big thank you to my local Cafe Nero, in Hexham, Northumberland. They have helped to provide a lively and very comfortable working environment. Why the title? My loss of internet connection was due to a provider telling me that they could ‘definitely provide a quicker broadband speed’ and then failing to do so AND creating a break in service. I live and have a home office on the Northumberland moors, when I’m not travelling, and had been told by BT that super fast broadband was not possible. Morale of the story? Don’t promise what you can’t deliver. Why do some technology companies try and blind us (and to a large extent themselves) with visions of wonders that don’t exist?
Tonight I shall have a relaxing bath with one of my favourite treats. REN Moroccan Rose Otto Bath Oil. This is the perfect way to end a rather frustrating few days!
Tip no 3 – The importance of lingerie
Good lingerie – that is underwear that fits you well – it an absolute must! Let’s start with a properly fitted bra.This means getting a professional fitter to measure you to ensure your bra fits. Even flat chested women need a good support. If you are of more ample proportions a well fitted bra can take pounds off. Even though other people may not see your underwear they will see the effect of it. Bulging back (bra too small), breast spilling over the top (wrong cup size) or that ‘low slung’ look will instantly age you.
Personally, I believe that no woman should own a white bra as they show through everything, including a white shirt. Also, if your laundry skills are not what they could be your white bra will quickly disintegrate into a dull and depressing grey. If you possess any dull grey bras pleas get rid of them. You’ll immediately feel better! Buy nude and black bras as they sit well under most colours. Wash them by hand. Yes, that’s right – by hand! I have been hand washing my bras and my more expensive knickers by hand for years and quite frankly can’t see what all the fuss is about. I’m sorry if this makes me sound too virtuous for words, but it means that your underwear lasts longer and doesn’t discolour.
Knickers, or panties to any American readers, should avoid the dreaded Visible Pant Line. Nothing can ruin your looker quicker. For some outfits, where a smooth silhouette is desirable, invest in some control wear. Most department stores stock control wear in some form or other. Spanx, an American brand, leads the way, and while you really wouldn’t want your ‘significant other’ to see you wearing a pair of the control panties, they do work.
Why not treat yourself to a basque? The silhouette you achieve is remarkable, especially if you are wearing a figure skimming dress. Plus your posture improves and you ‘lose’ inches.
Prima Donna – fabulous Belgium brand
If you want to look stylish then take the steps to ensure your clothes hang well and actually look as if they fit you. This means wearing the right lingerie. Even if you start with buying only one high quality bra the difference will be enormous. Not only to how you look but also to your self confidence.
No 2 – Be well groomed
The expression ‘well groomed’ may seem somewhat old fashioned, and yet it is impossible to be stylish if your hair is unkempt, your nails are untidy and your footwear looks as if you’ve trudged through a muddy field!
I was standing behind a women on an up escalator last week and in most respects she looked good. Stylish outfit, good haircut and a general sense of having given some thought to what she was going to wear. Unfortunately this impression didn’t last long as I caught sight of the back of her shoes. They were scuffed and the heels worn down. Why do some women pay good women for their footwear (this women’s shoes were a very well known designer brand) and then fail to have them repaired or at the very least polished?
Being well groomed is essentially down to 5 simple steps:
- Well cut tidy clean hair
- Carefully applied make-up – even a slick of lip gloss can make a difference
- Well kept clothes – clean, no missing buttons, pressed etc.
- Footwear that is clean and in a good state of repair
- Manicured nails kept reasonably short (no talons please) and a clear nail polish if you don’t want to apply colour
The finishing touch
The above 5 steps do not require vast amounts of time. Tip 2 is a close relation to tip 1, in that being organised helps you to be well groomed. When women take the trouble to really care for themselves (the French could give us a master class here!) the result is always worth the extra trouble.
Tip No 1 – Be organised
If you start each day wondering what to wear and then discover you can’t find it then any decisions as to what to wear will flounder. You’ll end up putting on an outfit that may not work. It’s all too easy to assume that women who look stylish achieve this effortlessly. They don’t! They know where all their key pieces, accessories and basics are.
Too packed for comfort!
Although the storage space above may look perfectly acceptable it really isn’t from an easy access point of view. I know there are many women out there with lots of clothes (we’ll deal with that in a later post!) and you may be saying “well I’ve limited wardrobe/closet space so what do I do?” One tried and tested solution is to pack away in storage boxes clothes that are not in season. This is something I do and will be doing soon with regard to winter sweaters and scarves. Remember to put a list of contents on the top of the box or just inside the lid.
If you can’t see, almost at a glance, what’s in your wardrobe then you will waste time. If you have the space in your bedroom you can have a separate clothes rail and the night before decide what you are going to wear and have it ready.
If you want to leave the house feeling well dressed then preparation and planning are essential. A major part of this is being able to find all the pieces that make up your stylish wardrobe.
Great storage from Ikea!
Look out for tip number 2 later in the week, where we look at the importance of grooming. My mother would be proud. Yes, it’s an old fashioned word and yet being well groomed is essential if you want to look stylish.
I don’t know about you but it’s around this time of year when I get a little bored with winter clothes. I do love my knitwear and big scarves, to say nothing of a really lovely pair of leather gloves, yet I find myself yearning for something lighter and more chic.
Enter those elegant neutrals. I have a whole pin board devoted to them!
It’s a pity that neutrals often get relegated to summer or spring weddings when they really come into their own in these still dark days before spring. The above outfit is relaxed but very chic – and still capable of keeping you warm.
A neutral top with white jeans works well for most body shapes. If you have a less than perfect middle then wear a longer top which suits your body shape.
If you don’t want to go completely neutral then why not try a pale grey, or soft beige, knitted jacket and make the transition gradually. Check out Zara for some very stylish examples. Or, how about some neutral nail polish?
In a remarkably short period of time it will be spring (ever the optimist) and we will no longer be able to hide underneath layers of clothes, even if they are lovely and cosy and made from cashmere! The time for hiding will be over. Now is the time to take a good long look at your arms. Even thin women can have flabby arms. If you are post menopausal then the chances are your arms may need some attention. Until my fifties I had what I thought were ‘naturally’ well-toned arms. I’ve always exercised – sporadically sometimes – but I take my body seriously. I now have some ‘flab’ on my upper arms so I’m using 5 lb weights to re-dress the balance. I started 3 months ago and it is working. If you want to face the warmer weather feeling confident enough to expose your arms then some exercise will be needed. Obviously use your common sense and seek medical advice if you feel it is necessary.
If the gym is not for you invest in some dumbbells and get those arms toned in the privacy of your own home. I can’t promise you’ll look like Ernest Shepherd, who by the way started exercising in her fifties having never done exercise before, but I promise you’ll feel better about that challenging area of the upper arms. Believe it or not Ernestine was born in 1936! No excuses now. Most of us don’t want to start body building but we do want to feel confident in our clothes.