Excellent skincare from an ethical company
The best cleanser I have ever used!
I have written before about the transformative power of clothes. You know that if you get your outfit right not only do you look good but you also feel good. One area of lifestyle I am increasingly asked about is skincare. As we get older our skin can change. It can become dryer, pores may appear larger and if like me, you are a bit of a sun worshipper, you may have some signs of pigmentation. I wanted to be able to offer bespoke skincare as part of the services I provide. With this in mind I set to and did some research. Last year I came across a British owned company called Temple Spa based in West Sussex. I trialed the products and was so impressed I decided to become a consultant. So, what does this mean for you? It means I can offer a bespoke skincare service based on your skin type and take you through the facial you would experience at one of the high quality spas using Temple spa products. Because I am one of their consultants I can offer substantial cost reductions and keep you informed about special offers. As a client you can pay as little as £69 for cleanser, toner, moisturiser and skin mask. Full cost would be £94.
This is skin therapy designed to match the needs of your skin and to reward your skin with outstanding long term benefits. The products are a delight to use and are a fusion of anti-aging ingredients, natural botanicals and essential oils.
I can offer a one-to-one session or if you prefer why not get a few friends or colleagues round and I’ll run a skin therapy class. If you are in the North East I run skin and spa therapy classes in my home which is set in the Northumberland hills. Contact me for details of the next class (May)
I rarely wear heels (I’ve inherited my mother’s challenging feet) although from time to time my outfit ‘needs’ heels. I love them and I think they make your posture better and, if you want to, they show off your legs. I’ve discovered quite the best thing in footwear for years. Ballerinas, made by a fabulously creative company, Butterfly Twists. Fold them up, pop them in your bag and when your heels get the better of you, pop them on.
I’ve recently bought the above style and will wear them next weekend when I attend a wedding. There will be dancing in the evening and I know my heels will not last the evening. The ballerinas are so comfortable and stylish. The sole is designed to be worn outside you need not fear they are too flimsy.
There is a wide range of styles and colours to choose from. Something to suit all occasions. So, whether you need them for a party, a shopping trip or on holiday you’ll find a pair you like. They fold up to about the size of a small purse. Brilliant!
If you read the fashion and style mags you will be aware that nude lipstick is everywhere. On some women it can look good. The thinking behind this trend is that it looks more natural than brighter coloured lipstick. Not sure I agree. No one’s lips are nude. We all have some pigmentation, hence the fact that a colour that works on a friend may look totally different on you. Allied to the huge amount of nude lipsticks on offer is that other trend. Matt lips.
Dark Nude Matt
Pale Nude Matt
If you want to wear matt lipstick you really need to have fairly full lips. Unlike a gloss lipstick a matt finish has the effect of flattening the lips and making them less prominent. Also, as women age their lips can tend to lose their plumpness and look thinner.
Maybelline Nude Matt
The Maybelline lipstick has a totally matt finish and does wear well. The MAC in ‘Patisserie’ (below) has a very slight shimmer and in my view is more flattering.
My preferred choice, especially if your lips are not full, is to go for the NARS or Chanel lipstick as they subtly highlight your lips and are not totally nude.
NARS in ‘Niagara’
Coco Shine in ’93 Intime’
I always feel that lipstick completes your makeup. It should complement and be in a colour that suits you. In my opinion nude lipstick is the opposite of natural and matt lipstick only works on full well defined lips.
It’s about this time of year when magazine articles and bloggers are busy extolling the virtues of travelling light. I have friends who only ever use a carry on bag. How do they do it? Toiletries aside (not that I ever could put them aside) how on earth do you pack for 7 days – let alone 14 – and only have a carry on bag.
Even with the necessary small sizes I still seem to have too many toiletries. I’ve tried decanting but once had shampoo over everything and spent the first two hours on arrival at my room having an impromptu washing session. If it’s a beach holiday the only thing is to buy sun lotions and after sun products when you get there; but this can be expensive. Also some skincare products (pump dispensers particularly) defy any attempt to decant.
Then there are the articles that say you can take 10 items and create 20 outfits. Really? It has never worked for me and I do think I’m creative when it comes to putting together an outfit. And don’t start me on shoes. I take an average size 6 (39) so it’s not as if my footwear takes up too much room.
Carry on contents
The above image relates to the ideal content for your carry on case! I can only assume the person packing has never traveled with Easy Jet. I am going to make an effort this year and consider taking a linen towel – much less bulky – when I travel somewhere with a beach. I suppose I could restrict my footwear to one pair of beach sandals, evening sandals and loafers for walking about. I still know (because I’ve tried it) that I will not be able to get everything into my airline approved carry on.
This is what I’m aspiring to!
I certainly will be taking a carry on. It will contain all my ‘extras’!
Stylish and very wearable
As an older woman the one thing that annoys me with regard to matters of style (many other things annoy me but this is not the place or time!) is my inability to wear heels any more. On a more positive note there are so many lovely flats around it isn’t the challenge it once was.
Edgy and full of attitude
If, like me, you really love shoes and are always looking for something above the average then the pair above are ideal. Flat shoes can look very stylish and of course they are ‘usually’ easier to walk in and don’t hurt your feet!
The above flats would not look out of place with a LBD or a pair of evening trousers. One thing that flats offer – apart for ease – is versatility.
Pick up any style book and the chances are there will be some reference to the stylish almost effortless way French women dress. Older women in particular seem to achieve an elegance and femininity often lacking in the UK. Give a British woman and a French woman the same jeans, top, shoes and a scarf, together with a couple of pieces of jewellery and I promise you they will look considerably different.
Classic French Outfit – timeless
Christine Largarde is always stylish and yet never overdressed. Of course it helps that her ancestry has given her that fabulous tanned complexion. Her jewellery is carefully chosen to complement not to over power.
Garance Dore – modern yet chic
There is a simplicity about the way French women dress. Key pieces, carefully chosen, and put together in a balanced way. You will rarely see a French women wearing loads of ‘bling’ or dressed head to toe in designer labels. Less really is more if you want to look stylish. Trying too hard shows and can shriek of desperation.
What French women do well is to mix their wardrobe with key expensive pieces – such as a jacket or coat – and then wear a top from Zara or a T-Shirt from a department store. You can invest in an expensive handbag and if you team it with jeans from Gap the whole outfit is transformed.
It’s all in the detail
Consider the outfit above. On the face of it a simple top worn over a shirt and a pair of jeans. Yet look at the way the sweater sleeves have been pushed up to reveal the cuffs & a small part of the hem left below the sweater. If the top had been put on top of the shirt without these adjustments the outfit would not have been given a second glance.
French women tend not to buy complete outfits. They buy key pieces and mix and match. I believe that’s how they do it!
I can remember the time when going to the theatre or out for supper, by implication, suggested the need to make some kind of effort. A pair of heels and some extra jewellery at the very least. Now, anything seems to go. Personally I find this depressing. I love to see people ‘dressed up’, particularly if they have been creatively stylish. It adds to the atmosphere. I was spending some time recently with a style client and she was bemoaning the fact that she never has the opportunity now to wear some of her evening clothes. She has some really timeless lovely pieces. As her friends tend to wear very casual outfits she feels overdressed.
Pashmina & pearls
The above outfit is casual and relaxed but still looks stylish. Good for lunch or shopping. This women has made an effort and it shows.
Black & white are timeless
The above combination is fairly minimal in style yet looks ‘put together’, as opposed to putting some jeans and a top on and then throwing your coat over the top.
Day into evening
The above outfit could be teamed with a statement necklace a colourful clutch bag and it could carry you effortlessly into the evening. A pair of ‘posh’ ballet flats would relax the look.
Stylish & versatile
I have always enjoyed the process of ‘getting dressed’ (perhaps I was a 19th century lady in a previous life) and I’m sometimes surprised at how little care is taken when people go out for a meal. Sometime last year I was on my way to our local cinema (we are fortunate in still having one) and I bumped into someone who asked where I was going. When I told her she seemed surprised and made some comment about me being “dressed up to sit in the dark”. I was wearing smart jeans and a knitted jacket and didn’t think I was over dressed. I think she missed the point. I had to get there first! I think dress codes have become so relaxed we are in danger of turning into slobs.
We all do it. From time to time we wear something that, with hindsight, makes us cringe. Clothing that has nothing to do with style. Here are some of those items of clothing best put in Room 101! I’m hoping you don’t need to ask why.
Yes, Crocs make some kind of sense if you are getting out of a small boat in Indonesia and wading through the sea. But not on the high street. Unless you look like Kate Moss you will not look stylish.
The slogan T shirt – under no circumstances!
My real pet hate (and I have seen this being worn outside) is the ‘onesie’. It is a large baby-gro! Nothing more nothing less. I refuse to have an image of it on my blog. Whilst I have nothing against leggings (and they can look very good paired with a tunic top) you must cover your bottom. Even if it is neat and shapely. Without the necessary over garment you will look as if you have forgotten to put your skirt on.
The motif sweater – so tacky
Allied to the above is a particularly horrible garment, which tends to make an appearance at this time of year; cropped baggy cargo pants. The style faux pas items above all share one common link. Do you know what it is? You will see children wearing them. In children they are acceptable – in grown-ups not!
Why the obsession with age? How have we arrived at this, quite frankly, rather absurd situation where many women want to look younger. Much younger. Millions are spent on surgical and non-invasive procedures to attempt to arrest the passage of time. Sometimes with bizarre results. Accepting your age now can be the most liberating thing you do this year.
I firmly believe that all women can look good. It requires time and some degree of investment. That is a fact of life. For older women simply putting on some lip gloss and making sure you hair is clean won’t cut it. So, what will?
Chic yet natural
Stylish – black & white uplifted
A decent hair style that is modern and suits you, together with well applied make-up. That is your starting point. If necessary change your hair dresser. They may be so used to ‘doing’ your hair they have gone onto auto pilot. Get yourself to the counter of a good cosmetics company and ask them to give you a make-over. Make sure you ask enough questions to enable you to replicate the results at home.
Why not re-visit my Tips for Keeping Stylish posted earlier in the year. Essentially they stress the benefits of being organised (style does not happen by chance), well groomed, good skincare and updating your wardrobe. Be the best version of you – not someone else.
I am unashamedly a lover of clothes shopping. So much so that I do it on behalf of my clients (and friends!). At one time I thought all women loved shopping for new clothes. Yet many women detest shopping. They come home tired, disgruntled and generally fed up with the fact that they cannot ‘find anything to wear’. This is particularly true of older women. Sound familiar? Then read on.
What’s missing? Firstly, it’s usually a lack of a plan. ‘Aimless’ shopping isn’t a good idea. Even with a plan shopping can be a disheartening experience. Why is this? Quite simply it is personal service. If you are spending money on something that will enhance how you look and feel about yourself – and this is often the main reason women go clothes shopping – then the often cursory, disengaged service we receive leaves us wishing we hadn’t bothered. In my view there is frequently an emotional connection to how we look. Sometimes major life changes, at home or work, force us to re-evaluate what we wear. So, off we go to the high street, shopping mall or, if we are very lucky, our local independent fashion retailer, with some expectations. One of our expectations, often held subconsciously, is that the person serving us will be interested in helping us to find that ‘perfect’ piece. Remember the last time you bought something you really loved. What a great feeling! The chances are you received personal service. Someone who understands clothes and knows their own stock inside out. Someone capable of helping you to put together an outfit. Sadly, many staff in larger stores are not given the necessary training and development to be able to do this. Added to which younger staff don’t really ‘connect’ to the style needs of older women.
Not my idea of fun!
The solution? Find an independent fashion retailer or a clothes brand that recruits the right kind of staff (interested in clothes, style and delivering great customer service) and the take the time to train them well. This reduces the number of outlets you need to visit and increases (not decreases) the chances of finding something you like. I was recently in Birmingham with a client and we went into LK Bennet. Excellent service and a glass of fizz! The staff knew their business and were genuinely interested in my client.